"Why is this happening?"
Michael Hyatt in his blog 'A Question That Changes Everything' writes that one of the best questions to ask when tough times hits is, "What does this experience make possible?" (read the entire article at http://us2.campaign-archive1.com/?u=52d5c7778a3adfda535c3b349&id=bbfaa299a8&e=c4c0332e93).
What does this experience make possible?A job loss, an illness, a change in a relationship, a car that will not start; what does this experience make possible? This question moves you from something you cannot change - the past, to something you can change - the future.
You cannot choose the circumstances that happen to you, but you can choose how to respond to challenging times. You can make lemonade out of life's lemons.
I know what it is to be in need, and I know what it is to have plenty. I have learned the secret of being content in any and every situation, whether well fed or hungry, whether living in plenty or in want. 13 I can do all this through Him who gives me strength.