Conflict shows up in your work, church, neighborhood and in your families. Conflict provides an opportunity for followers of Jesus Christ to respond in a way that is markedly different – living out the gospel in those critical moments when conflict and conviction collide. Peacemakers Ministries http://www.peacemaker.net offers the following principles for handling conflict:
Conflict is not necessarily bad or destructive. Even when conflict is caused by sin and causes a great deal of stress, God can use it for good (see Rom. 8:28-29). Conflict actually provides four significant opportunities. By God's grace, you can use conflict to:
1. Glorify God – Ask: How can I please and honor God in this situation, and how can I give witness to what he has done for me through Christ?
2. Get the log out of your eye – Ask: How have I contributed to this conflict and what do I need to do to resolve it?
3. Gently restore – Ask: How can I help others to understand how they have contributed to this conflict?
4. Go and be reconciled – Ask: How can I demonstrate forgiveness and encourage a reasonable solution to this conflict?
Whether you are a conflict aversive person who avoids conflict at all costs or conflict assertive and run towards conflict, applying these principles will change the way you address conflict.